You’ve started on the path of forgiveness. This is not an easy path, but there are many positive benefits. If you haven’t started on the path yet, see my post How Can I Forgive When It Seems Too Hard to learn more.
The path of forgiveness often opens your eyes to wrongs you have done and how these wrongs have affected others.
Sometimes forgiving yourself is more difficult than forgiving others.
Is a lack of forgiveness holding you back from the life you dream about? When you can’t forgive someone you are holding onto anger, resentments, and hurts from the past.
Sometimes you are holding onto recent grudges. Your boss criticized you in front of everyone. Your romantic partner forgot your birthday. Other times you are holding onto hurts from childhood. A teacher embarrassed you. Your mother slapped you.
A lack of forgiveness is always about the past. Letting go of the past is the key to the life you dream about.
Your problem childhood holds the key to the life you want. Many of the emotions that are holding you back are not from the present moment. You are still feeling limiting emotions from childhood.
As a child you may have felt hurt, rejected, afraid, embarrassed, shamed, ignored or unloved. These emotions are still with you because there was no resolution – no opportunity for release. You did not get the love, the attention, or the respect you needed. These emotions act like messengers from the past telling you what you need now to create the life you want.
Everybody experiences times when our brain simply locks up. Usually this happens at the most crucial times. You are set to give that important presentation and all of a sudden you can’t remember any of your points. During a job interview you fumble the easiest questions. Instead of making a good impression with a possible date, you mumble something stupid. You’ve studied for the exam and your mind goes blank when you read the first question.
Normally you solve problems by engaging your thinking. But what can you do when your best problem solving tool is not working?
People often ask me if they can change their emotions. Many people believe that emotions are mysterious and difficult to work with. You just have to live with them. Changing emotions is difficult when you treat them like thoughts. Emotions are not thoughts. When you honor and respect your emotions you can discover your true…
Do you have too many negative people in your life? Do people in your life hold you back or bring you down? It seems like negative people are everywhere.
Last week a client sent me a thank-you e-mail and I want to quote part of it. “In my view, I am a cleaner, lighter being in my core as a result of your work. Because of this new lightness my world has become cleaner with less negative people and more of the positive ones. Being a better person starts way deep inside…”
Is guilt running your life? There are so many things that create guilt. You forgot an appointment. You said something that might be unkind. You took time for yourself. You said no. Some people seem to feel guilty about every little thing. Some people feel guilty for being. Is guilt helping you live the life…
Fear is a natural emotion and most of the time it serves us well. Fear helps us stay safe. But what happens when fear gets out of control? It can affect every area of life. It can lower your self esteem, destroy your confidence, and keep you stuck in a life that is not working….
You may not be aware that many of your emotions are not related to the present moment and can affect your success. We have two kind of emotions: those from the present moment and those from the past. When you feel an emotion do you know where it comes from? You can decide if emotions…