Do you feel stressed-out? Do you wish you could be more resilient?
Let’s face it. We live in a stressed-out world. There seems to be a new source of stress every day, whether it comes from our personal lives or the culture. Maybe you are feeling overwhelmed by it all.
I can’t do anything about all those stressors, but I can help you recover your natural resilience so you can bounce back.
Read on to learn how.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the ability to recover from life’s difficulties. Some people might call this mental or emotional toughness.
Here are some examples of times when you want to be resilient:
- You get a bad performance review at work.
- You get a scary medical diagnosis.
- You want to learn a difficult new skill that takes a lot of practice to master.
- You embark on a path of personal growth.
As you can see, you need to have resilience in a variety of situations, from overcoming difficulties to improving your life.
How to become more resilient
Experts recommend a number of strategies, including:
- Making realistic plans and taking action.
- Having confidence in yourself and your abilities.
- Developing communications and problem-solving skills.
- Managing strong feelings and impulses.
There are two items on this list that I want to focus on: having a positive view of yourself and feeling emotions that support you.
When you have these two qualities you have a strong foundation. You will be prepared for difficulties and you will be more likely to take on big projects.
There are certain emotions that lead to resilience, while others keep you stressed-out and stuck. Problem emotions include:
- Anxiety and worry
- Feeling down or depressed
- Being out of touch with your emotions
If these make up your emotional foundation, then anything can push you over the edge.
Emotions that create a good foundation include:
- Love and joy
Other positive qualities worth having include:
Does this mean that when you are resilient you never feel sad, angry, afraid, or ashamed again? Not at all. These are normal emotions and they can help you through tough times. You will have greater understanding and more compassion.
How to develop a resilient foundation
There is good news. Your natural emotions are love and joy. Unfortunately unresolved emotions from childhood became stuck in your system. These emotions are covering up your love and joy.
Since these emotions are not your true emotions they can be released.
The poetry of emotion process can help you release the problem emotions that are holding you back. Click on “Are you new to the site?” to learn more.
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