We have been exploring the concept of learned personality. This is sometimes called your false personality or your mask personality.
If you mask personality isn’t the real you, how can you discover your true personality?
Your true personality is still there. It has been buried underneath your history and you may have lost touch with it.
Are you ready to find the real you?
In my last post, I introduced you to the concept of emotional personality. There are many ways to define personality. I like to define emotional personality as your relationship with the world. You can think of this as your learned personality or your mask personality.
You may be wondering how to discover your unique personality and how it will benefit you to know your personality.
If you want to understand more about yourself, keep reading.
What is personality? Where did it come from? How do you define it?
Everybody has a personality and each personality seems to be unique. But have you ever asked yourself: “How did I get my particular personality?”
Where you born with your personality? Did you inherit it from your family? Or did you acquire it in childhood?
What makes up a personality? Is it based on your thoughts or something else?
Have you ever wondered about any of these questions? If so, keep reading to discover a unique way of viewing your personality.
These days everyone has heard about the Law of Attraction. Some of you are happily using it to get what you want in life, while others wonder, “Why doesn’t it work for me?”
The Law of Attraction has three steps: ask, believe, and receive. For many people the second step, believe, can create problems. We all know we need to believe that we can have our desire, but we may not realize that we need to believe in ourselves, too.
What if we don’t believe we can have our desire enough? What if we don’t believe in ourselves enough?
Do you love yourself enough? What do you see when you look into the mirror?
Do you see someone who is flawed, not good enough, and unlovable? Or do you see a wonderful person who deserves to love and be loved?
You may be uncomfortable with the thought of self-love. You may have been taught that self-love is another word for pride or arrogance.
What if self-love is really the first step toward your most amazing life?
You’ve tried everything and those negative thoughts refuse to budge. You’ve visualized your desired outcome. You’ve said a million affirmations. You’ve thought it through and know all the logical reasons to change.
Yet, you don’t see the change you desire.
What do you do? Give up and believe that you can’t change? Or, do you try something different?
You have another option. You can release your negative emotions.
Do you have limiting beliefs? Limiting beliefs are the ones that hold you back from living the life you dream about.
If you think you are unworthy, not good enough, undeserving or unlovable you have limiting beliefs. There are many others. Most limiting beliefs describe a lack of ability, such as “I’m not good at math” or a lack in your very being, such as “I’m not lovable.”
Limiting beliefs were learned and you can learn them.
I’ve been thinking about self esteem lately. When we have problems, such as financial struggles, health challenges, or we experience natural disasters such as hurricane Sandy, it is hard to keep our spirits up. It is hard to feel good about ourselves.
Instead of passing out some advice or a list of suggestions, I think you might benefit from a deeper understanding of self esteem. I turned to two pioneers in the field of counseling to help us out.
Are emotions from the past preventing you from enjoying your holiday season? Normally you are a competent adult. Yet, when you go home for the holidays you feel 12 years old again.
Almost everyone has had the experience of age regression. Age regression happens when your emotions get reset to an earlier point in your life, usually childhood.
What causes age regression and what can you do about it?
You’ve started on the path of forgiveness. This is not an easy path, but there are many positive benefits. If you haven’t started on the path yet, see my post How Can I Forgive When It Seems Too Hard to learn more.
The path of forgiveness often opens your eyes to wrongs you have done and how these wrongs have affected others.
Sometimes forgiving yourself is more difficult than forgiving others.