Are you experiencing confusion in your life? Are you confused about your life purpose or smaller issues, like what to eat for lunch?
Did you know that there are two kinds of confusion? You can experience unhealthy confusion or healthy confusion.
Keep reading to discover the 5 signs of unhealthy confusion and how to get unstuck.
Are you confused?
For some people confusion is a way of life. How do you know if you are experiencing unhealthy confusion? Here are 5 signs:
- You struggle with small decisions
- People get frustrated because you can’t make a decision
- You don’t know your life purpose
- Your life lacks direction
- You say “I don’t know” a lot
If you saw yourself in these signs, confusion may be keeping you stuck.
Healthy confusion vs. unhealthy confusion
Before you decide that confusion is a problem, let’s look at the positive side of confusion. I know what you are thinking: “How could there be anything positive about confusion!”
Healthy confusion is a part of problem solving and learning. Think about your own life. Just before you solve a sticky problem, like how do I discipline my child, you are confused. Then, all of a sudden you get an idea or you read a blog and you know what to do.
When you are learning something new – anything from math to golf – you experience confusion. Moving from confusion to understanding is usually just a matter of persistence and practice.
Unhealthy confusion never seems to go away. Every decision is a struggle. Learning something new is painful.
Healthy confusion is a part of life and can help you live the life of your dreams. When you can tolerate confusion you can grow and develop your full potential.
How did you learn unhealthy confusion?
Unhealthy confusion was learned in childhood. It is easy for children to become confused. Every day children are faced with new experiences and new information.
Children learn unhealthy confusion when they grow up in a family filled with chaos and mixed messages. Some issues that contribute to confusion include: an alcoholic family member, arguments, and anger.
When a child is faced with upsetting events, the child experiences fear and confusion. When these incidents happen over and over, the child becomes stuck in confusion.
How can you release the confusion?
The best way to work with confusion is to focus on your thoughts and language. Are you saying:
- I don’t know
- I’m confused
- I can’t decide
- I just went blank
- I’m lost
Focus on the emotion connected with these thoughts. Then use the poetry of emotion process to release the emotion. When using the poetry of emotion process to address confusion, you may need to enlist the help of a friend to keep you on track. It is easy to get lost in the confusion.
Releasing unhealthy confusion can change your life. Clients have described this release as a fog lifting and they can see clearly for the first time ever.
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